Unless I'm misunderstanding the question, the appropriate place to manage user permissions is within MySQL. You grant select access to the relations table for everyone, but only the administrator gets access to UPDATE the relations table.
this won't work for ISPs - can't see them handling the relations for a few hundred clients databases. so there is only two possibilities:
a) have the relationstable in the users database or b) for modifying the relationtable test the users rights on the table. i have written a script to modify the relationtable (without this feature) and sent it to marc, hope it will be in cvs as soon as he finished restructuring the tbl_properties page (it is suppossed to be called with a link from this page). i think the neat way to do it would be to make this script check if a user wants to put in links from table "a" as mastertable to test if he has e.g. the alterpriv for table "a".
regards
mike beck